an Open letter for Kori on Motherhood

My cousin Kori is about to embark on the most exhilarating ride of her life.

She is going to give birth to her very first child...a daughter. Tomorrow.

I adore my cousin. Her Mom isn't here to guide her. So I'm doing what I can (from 1000 miles away) to be there for her.

Today she told me they are going to induce her tomorrow morning. I tried to explain to her in a short email what to expect and what will change.

I didn't do it justice...so I'll try again here.
Having a child means never putting yourself first again....and you wouldn't want it any other way.

Having a child means for the first time in your life, you understand what "Unconditional Love" really means.

Your perspective of the world changes, the moment you bring that child home. Things that never crossed your mind before, consume you.
Like...is the kitchen tile cleaner going to harm her? I wonder what sort of chemicals are in the carpet? Are there any sex offenders living in my neighborhood? City? County?

An interesting change. Before children, you could go out and meet "people" and strike up a conversation. Once you have children, "people" are "strangers" and Strangers mean danger.

Nice young mothers, with children of their own are the only "safe" people you will talk to anymore.

Your world, your life and you will change the moment she is born. You've heard this before and it sounds a little scary...but I promise, it's worth it.

You will forget what life was like without her. You won't be able to imagine it. The world didn't exist until she was born.

Anything regarding a hurt, lost, hungry or homeless child will affect you. In ways it never did before. It sounds a little hippy but, you become a part of a larger family.
Motherhood is a condition. You can't turn it off. Every child that yells "Mom" in a store has 40 Mothers turn their head. We can't help it. You will be a part of our club.

Remember you have a family and friends who love you, Cameron and the baby. We are here. Sleep when she sleeps and enjoy the little things.

They grow up before you know it. You blink and wonder, "what happened to my baby" so enjoy the everyday moments while you can.

It is a fun, fascinating and sometimes scary ride, but in the end it's the best one you will ever take.

I love you my dear cousin and I can't wait to hold my "niece"

UPDATE: Kori had a beautiful baby girl on August 27. After almost two days of labor! Mommy and baby Ashlin are doing great.
We love you Kori, Cameron and Ashlin Jean!